Love marriages VS Retail marriages

Love is the most precious feeling in the world because you can never buy it, you never know when love comes to you and you certainly don’t know when love will leave you.  It gives you the greatest happiness and the worst sorrow. Sometimes when love leaves people they tend to move on or rather move apart from each other. Some people find this tough while a few lucky people find it easy, it doesn’t mean that they are not gentlemen or honourable women; they are just more practical than their ex-lovers. In love, opposites attract each other quite nicely but they don’t repel easily unless one of the poles change.  In a few lucky cases, both the poles change which means they are opposite again and get back together. This happens when they eventually realise their love for each other(separation sometimes can work magic)that they cannot live without each other at least for the purpose of quarrelling. But most people are not that lucky with relationships, no point in worrying about lost love; cigarettes, beer and the worst culprit sad songs will never help but only increase the pain exponentially. So to prolong the love and to avoid the inevitable, civilisation introduced terms like commitment, marriage, vows etc. Most people even though they realise that they do not love each other anymore, they tend to stay together due to the other relationships they develop with each other with the course of time like for example they can be best friends before or even after their courtship, they can be parents to kids etc. Still they must be happy because love always gives memories and for the sake of the good memories we celebrate anniversaries and other “first time we did that” occasions. This is usually the job of the husband in the relationship to remember these days, men are meant to surprise and women to be wowed; It’s my dreaded  gender’s duty to propose marriage, to slip in the ring or tie the knot; comes with the fun a few added responsibilities. Take care of the children, be a good father because oxytocin makes the women naturally good mothers. The tough part is that when lovers tend to fall apart after their marriage, after they realise that love is lost between them and they want to move away from each other. I know what you are thinking now; I certainly did not mean Miss Kim Kardashian. There are more meaningful celebrity splits. Classic example is Imran and Jemima Khan. He left her in England and split from her when he decided to pursue his political ambitions in Pakistan. He tried bringing her to Pakistan but his political opponents did not spare her, so they decided to move away. He’s still a good father, spends time with them when they’re on leave, helps Jemima’s brother establish himself etc. Now this is a good-ex. That doesn’t mean that they would not have had bitter memories, in the course of time the bad memories would’ve died slowly, bad memories will become one-off instances and one-off instances would eventually be forgotten. Now this is the natural progression; fall in love-be together-get along well-be faithful-propose marriage-be more faithful-hopefully happily ever after. Now the problem comes when people skip steps; no point proposing marriage when you’re not in love with a person. So, what is the concept of arranging marriages? People tend to abide themselves by self-imposed regulations. Why fool ourselves in the name of culture and tradition? Fearing rejection, our ancestors imposed a caste-based marriage system by which a girl is doomed to be sent to another family as bride if the families happened to be of the same caste. Eventually with the passage of time, this habit became a tradition, slowly social evils like dowry crept inside our system. More horrifying human right violations like honour killings entered our society. At least if you don’t approve of my views on love marriages, please do not encourage dowry.